This Couple Is Expecting Two Babies — Because They're Both Pregnant At the Same Time

This Couple Is Expecting Two Babies — Because They're Both Pregnant At the Same Time
Photo credit: Instagram/@tobyfleischman

Being pregnant at the same time as your best friend sounds like a dream come true. You'd have a built in support system who knows exactly what you're going through. But for one married couple, that dream is actually their reality - they're both expecting babies at the same time.

In a sweet Instagram pregnancy announcement, celebrity makeup artist Toby Fleischman shared the news that she and her wife Lindsay Lanciault are both pregnant. Oh - and their due dates are only 3 weeks apart, with their "twinblings" both due this summer.

"Everyone always says they want to get pregnant with their best friend," Fleischman wrote in her caption, accompanying a photo of the two holding complementary "It's a boy"/"It's also a boy" signs. "And I just happened to be lucky enough to be married to mine."

"Parallel pregnancies" for lesbian couples aren't common, according to Dr. Kristin Bendikson, a fertility specialist at USC Fertility. "The only time I've seen it happen is when I was a resident - and that was, like, 20 years ago," Dr. Bendikson told PopSugar while discussing the Fleischman-Lanciault family's story. "The overwhelming majority of lesbian couples that I see are usually focused on one person getting pregnant at a time."

The soon-to-be moms were in that same boat when they initially began their journey to motherhood. The Los Angeles couple explained to PopSugar that Fleischman, the older of the two, was planning on getting pregnant first. She successfully did, but that pregnancy ended in miscarriage. Complications arose, resulting in the two women having to find a new sperm donor and adding stress to their relationship, something that tends to happen when any couple is having difficulty conceiving.

But there was an added level of tension that's unique to lesbian couples struggling with one partner's impaired fertility - the eventual decision to shift and have Lanciault be the focus of new attempts to conceive. Those complicated feelings are a part of why the two chose to share their story. "I wish more women had spoken openly to me about it before and during our process. It wasn't until I started sharing the details with some friends that I learned I wasn't alone," Fleischman told Babble.

Eventually, with the help of their acupuncturist Danica Thornberry, the two women healed their rift and refocused on their now-joint efforts to have a baby. After two years of struggling to conceive, Fleischman found out she was pregnant in November, just as Lanciault was beginning to try. Lanciault became pregnant just a few weeks later, via the same sperm donor.

Though "elated" at the news, like many LGBTQ families, the pair were somewhat wary in light of Donald Trump's election. Because of this, they're taking precautions by adopting each other's birth child as early as legally possible, "just in case." They also noted that they feel the "challenge" of "this huge responsibility to raise respectful, compassionate, feminist men," given that they're two women expecting two boys.

Of course, there are some obvious downsides - like the high-than-average level of mood-swinging pregnancy hormones in their house. Fleischman told PopSugar, "[W]e go through waves - in one day - of being obsessed and in love with each other and so euphoric to 'I don't want to be next to you. Please don't talk to me.'"

(h/t Babble)

 

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Susan M. Pebbles
Susan M. Pebbles
Mar 21
naaaaaaaaaasty
Lydia Hanson
Lydia Hanson
Mar 21
@Susan M. Pebbles
that's rude
Elyssa Matheny
Elyssa Matheny
Mar 21
@Lydia Hanson
// @Lydia Hanson: that's rude
Book Open
Book Open
Mar 21
and this perversion is supposed to be news??
Joanne Adams
Joanne Adams
Mar 21
@Book Open
This is the real world and god made us all different look outside and realize you are a freak and god made you by mistake
Ben Simpkins
Ben Simpkins
Mar 21
poor children to be raised in that kind of home that's so forbiding by gods word totally against the bible
Joanne Adams
Joanne Adams
Mar 21
@Ben Simpkins
bible you prehistoric fool loving humans is all a child needs you homophobic idiot Ben
Chanel Tomas
Chanel Tomas
Mar 21
as long as they are happy...I wish them well
Joanne Adams
Joanne Adams
Mar 21
@Chanel Tomas
lovely to read positive comment
Grace Hvac Handyman Services
Grace Hvac Handyman Services
Mar 21
@Chanel Tomas
wrong has nothing to do with as long as there happy that an abomination unto God
Evangelina Vaquera
Evangelina Vaquera
Mar 23
@Chanel Tomas
your a nice person
Wendell Payne
Wendell Payne
Mar 21
sick,immoral and a sad pathetic situation.,God will not be mocked.What the kids will face is a shame.That is just disgusting
Joanne Adams
Joanne Adams
Mar 21
@Wendell Payne
Homophobic freaks need shooting fact god made gays so shoot the haters not ones that love. fact shame on you
Tom Padgett
Tom Padgett
Mar 21
@Joanne Adams
that funny, Blame it on God!!! You have noticed that "all" gay couples have to find someone outside the couple to get pregnant or find a doctor or adopt. In God's world you only need a One male and One female, you people make me laugh, no clue// @Joanne Adams: Homophobic freaks need shooting fact god made gays so shoot the haters not ones that love. fact shame on you
Evangelina Vaquera
Evangelina Vaquera
Mar 21
I hope they are happy and y'all shouldn't be judging them if their happy then their happy why can't yall just be happy for them? 😢😢😢😢that's just sad and RUDE😢 I'm pretty sure that you have done something gross or disgusting in your life so don't judge
Grace Hvac Handyman Services
Grace Hvac Handyman Services
Mar 21
@Evangelina Vaquera
that is not Judging it's not right I God's Eyes and yes we all have done something wrong in our life time but it doesn't make it right to continue to do wrong when you know what is right God's Grace is not a license for any of us to continue to sin it's all about repentance and get right with God
Tom Padgett
Tom Padgett
Mar 21
@Grace Hvac Handyman Services
I say do what ever you want in the end we are all held accountable in the end. Believe what you want, but that won't change the truth!// @Grace Hvac Handyman Services: that is not Judging it's not right I God's Eyes and yes we all have done something wrong in our life time but it doesn't make it right to continue to do wrong when you know what is right God's Grace is not a license for any of us to continue to sin it's all about repentance and get right with God
Norma Stepheson
Norma Stepheson
Mar 21
wow sad
Jelen Wood
Jelen Wood
Mar 21
To all those that are having a problem with this, get over it, let us gay pple adopt and have the kids that u straight pple abandoned or won't bring to the world.
Grace Hvac Handyman Services
Grace Hvac Handyman Services
Mar 21
@Jelen Wood
what can you offer these Children can you raise them up to Love God can you teach them that what you are doing and is not right in God's Eye sight be of the same sex with the same sex because your living a life that is not of God we still love you but we can not accept your sin
Jennifer Wolf
Jennifer Wolf
Mar 21
judging is against god too, idk just saying.
Rena Finklea
Rena Finklea
Mar 21
We will all see what God said about this in the END.
Broshell Ford
Broshell Ford
Mar 21
@Rena Finklea
5 55
Simple Ceci
Simple Ceci
Mar 21
Jeez, why are all of you hating? Because 2 women want to have a family of their own? Knock it off guys, they only want what any of us have, yet you hate on them for it? God loves all his children, despite our differences so just at least show a little empathy especially for what they have gone through with the miscarriages and countless hate and shame you've been giving.
Connie Hawkins
Connie Hawkins
Mar 21
@Simple Ceci
Great words, I myself had the same problems in my life, however God blessed me with a wonderful son. I wish both ladies/mother's a bless life and to do all in raising their children. God is a rest God and he will give us our hearts desire.
Tom Padgett
Tom Padgett
Mar 21
@Simple Ceci
you should read the Bible, you might understand. They think they will be happy, but they won't be. In a year or two we will be reading another Buzz article about lesbos divorce. We will hear some lame excuse like having 2 babies at the same time was just too much on our relationship. But they were in Love, I be laughing that day too
Tom Padgett
Tom Padgett
Mar 21
and out of Leftfield, they just had to say they fear our President, pathetic I say!!! I haven't heard one word from our President being out to get your sinful community. The left always turning there most happy time into a political issue. The happy lesbo had to make it political, so sad. I am tired of all there elitist who through some sort of minor fame feel that because they have a bigger soap box to give a opinion, that they thing there opinion should mean so much to the masses. It don't work that way, if it did Hillary would be President!!! All of Hollywood was out supporting that thief. Your job is to entertain, so shut the f**k up and entertain me!!! Your opinion is not wanted or needed
Janretta Lewis
Janretta Lewis
Mar 21
Wife! you got to be kidding me I know a woman and woman didn't make baby! Poor baby. Really GOD is coming back soon.
Jen Jamison
Jen Jamison
Mar 21
don't forget to bash trump cause you are a lesbian
Maria Long
Maria Long
Mar 21
It takes a sperm (from a male) and an egg (from a woman) to produce A CHILD! I feel as if it was okay for a woman to be with a woman and vice versa, those "unions" would be able to conceive by either person. JS
Evangelina Vaquera
Evangelina Vaquera
Mar 23
well I'm sorry u feel that way I'm not a lesbian but still their happy and i know that it wasn't God's plan but still don't u think it would be nice just to accept them for who they are?
Evangelina Vaquera
Evangelina Vaquera
Mar 23
they look so happy and u are saying u don't think it's right for them to be happy ? cuz that what it sounds like